Northwestern Press

Wednesday, December 11, 2019

Respectfully Yours: Loaned item

Friday, July 19, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

My neighbor borrowed my tree trimmer a while back and he hasn’t returned it. I would like to do some yard work and really need my trimmer. How do you politely ask someone to return something that you let them borrow?

Dear Reader, This happens to most of us. We kindly lend an item to someone, trusting he or she will return it as soon as they are finished.

Time goes by and we forget until we need the item. Now we find ourselves in an uncomfortable situation, embarrassed to ask for the item back.

Respectfully Yours: Job interview

Friday, July 5, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

I have a job interview coming up and it’s really important to me that I do well. I would really love to land this job. What are some etiquette tips and ways I can prepare for my interview?

Dear Reader,

Impressing the interviewer and landing the job you want is not just about your skills and experience.

The interviewer will be looking at the whole package, not just your qualifications, but your overall presentation. During a job interview, you will basically be selling yourself.

Respectfully Yours: Those PDAs

Saturday, June 29, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

I stopped at a local convenience store to pick up lunch and was minding my own business. While I was waiting for my order, there was a couple across from me engaged in hugging and kissing that made me uncomfortable. Don’t people understand that public displays of affection make the people around them uncomfortable?

Dear Reader,

Public displays of affection come in a variety of forms.

Some displays of affection are accepted everywhere. Hugging and a quick kiss are not usually offensive and typically acceptable.

Respectfully Yours: Gossip reflects poorly

Friday, June 21, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

I have a friend who I really like, with one exception. She will tell me things others have told her and it makes me uncomfortable. It makes me wonder what she says about me when I am not around. I would like to be able to keep this friendship, but not being able to speak freely with her makes me uncomfortable. How can I steer the conversation away from gossip?

Dear Reader, Gossip is unnecessary, unflattering and reflects poorly on character.

It would appear your friend is someone who thinks gossip is innocent and makes it a topic of conversation.

Respectfully Yours: Party RSVP

Friday, June 7, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

I love hosting dinner parties. I always send out invites asking for RSVPs. What’s the proper way to handle it when I get no response? I don’t want to be pushy or rude, but it’s hard to plan seating and having enough food not knowing in advance who is coming.

Dear Reader,

It is extremely frustrating for a host and it makes party planning difficult when people do not let you know if they want to attend or not.

Respectfully Yours: Second baby shower

Friday, May 31, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn, My sister’s first daughter is almost 18-months-old. My sister is expecting her second child in fall. I’d like to host a baby shower to celebrate her new baby. Is hosting a shower appropriate for a second pregnancy?

Dear Reader,

Deciding to have a second or even third baby shower is a question that has a lot of mixed answers.

Some people consider it rude and others see nothing wrong with the idea.

There are even some specific circumstances and guidelines people will use before considering throwing a second baby shower.

Respectfully Yours: Social media miffs

Sunday, May 26, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

Maybe I am just being old-fashioned, but my grandson just announced on Facebook that he and his wife are expecting their first child in fall. We don’t live nearby, but we manage to talk on the phone every couple of months. Finding out on Facebook that I’m going to be a great grandmother hurt. It made me feel of equal importance in his life as his middle school friends. I would have liked a phone call from my grandson rather than finding out on social media. Is this the new norm or is this as rude as I think it is?

Dear Reader,

Respectfully Yours: Others’ plates

Tuesday, May 21, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

I enjoy dining out with a group of my friends. But there is one person who is always picking food off my plate. I don’t mind when a group of us shares dishes around the table, but I can’t stand it when someone starts casually eating off of my plate without asking. What should I do without embarrassing myself or the person?

Dear Reader,

When did “Mine is mine. Yours is mine” become the rule at the table?

It’s one thing when family members or significant others take food from each other’s plates.